The Dating Period

So my husband and I met through my dad. My dad liked him right away. I thought he was really cute. We dated and of course in those months before we decided to get married, my then fiancee always attended church with me. After our marriage he continued to go with me until he started building our home. He then started using that, as an excuse not to go with me. As we started our family he kept building on and it got to the point that I was attending church alone with our kids. I found myself feeling as if people might be talking about me as though I might be a divorcee or an unwed mother always at church alone. So for a few weeks I stayed away from church. Then the LORD asked me why I wasn't going to visit HIM and listening to HIS word. I immediately realized that no one was thinking anything about my going to church alone, it was just something I sadly put into my mind and was feeling embarrassed about it. So that following Sunday morning I dressed the children and marched up to my husband and told him that he could go to heck alone but that I wasn't going with him. I was going back to church with or without him and that if anyone would ask about him I would simply tell them the truth, that working on the house was more important to him.

This is what I meant about my husband's family having a different way of family life. They rarely attended church. I believed he would continue going to church with me since he'd been going with me while we were dating. I was young! Now thirty-five years later I heard some one say that a woman believes the man will change his ways for her after they're married, and a man believes that the woman will never change and will always keep her figure and beauty. Something to ponder on, right? Happily, about four years ago, my husband heard a man speaking on tv about regaining a relationship with the LORD, and after listening to that man, my husband understood the importance of being in touch with GOD. After some time of his realization he came up to me one day and asked me if I thought he was being really weird with his new found interest in the faith. I said I was glad he was finally with me where he should be, on the road to the goal together. I also added something my mom used to say, "You're just learning what I'm forgetting, so tell me where you're at so that we can know it together."